One of the most difficult parts of parenthood to me is finding that quality time with the kids.
Not the kids as a group.
We do that often.
We eat breakfast together. We eat dinner together. We hike together. We go to the beach together.
We have a LOT of together time.
Sometimes too much. :)
But it is finding that time with each child individually that is a challenge.
For one thing, our house is not that big.
It is rare to only have one child in the room.
And while it sounds nice to set apart a set amount of time each day for each child, it is not that easy. We have homework, after school activities, laundry, chores, cooking dinner.
And I have at least one very demanding child.
So do I have large amounts of individual time with each child?
At least not daily.
We have tried before to set up a schedule for at least monthly (a set time).
But that didn't always work either.
I have learned that we just have to seize moments when we get them.
Sometimes it will be something big like a Veggietales Live program in another town that you are just sure your son will love.
Other times it is taking a child to the grocery store to do the weekly shopping together.
Or praying with a child before he/she goes to sleep.
Or taking one out for a round of golf. (That would be Daddy, not me :)
Or playing a board game with one.
Or cooking a meal with a different child each week.
Or reading a book with another before bed.
And even that homework time...that is a lot of "one on one" time.
I can't ever measure that time. It probably isn't even enough.
But I have learned to seize those moments, to make the most of them. To truly be with the child, to hear what he/she is saying. To give them that moment to feel special.
It isn't perfect.
But hopefully one day they will remember these times and treasure them.
I sure do.